There are a variety of symptoms that indicate poor communication:
- snapping over minor irritations
- silent treatment while nursing perceived insults
- insisting one's own way is the only way
God's word more aptly describes this picture as a tangible sound, a "constant dripping."
The writer uses a woman as an example here, but these can easily be applied to a man as well. But the writer has other examples from the perspective of a male ego.
All these verses give us a picture, as Elizabeth George puts it, of a crabby, cranky, nagging, quarrelsome, complaining, ill-tempered [man or woman]. And it all comes down to the way we choose to communicate.
Our words and how we use them can give us a stressful life or a peaceful life. God leaves the choice to us, while explaining very clearly in His word what is the best choice.
Here we are given an image of great beauty and value. There are 5 keys to bring that beauty into our lives through our words.
- Our words are to be soft.
- Our words are to be sweet.
- Our words are to be suitable.
- Our words are to be scant.
- Our words are to be slow.
#1- Follow God's guidelines for good communication.
#2- Identify any speech patterns that must go.
#3- Make it a goal to encourage your spouse, children, friends.
#4- Be quick to say you're sorry.
#5- "Say what you mean, but don't say it meanly."
#6- Seek to please God with your words.